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we‡k¦i AwaKvsk †`‡kB ˆeevwnK al©Y GKwU ¯^xK…Z Aciva| Gici wKQy wKQy iv‡óª `¤úwZ c…_K Ae¯’vb Ki‡jB Z‡e ˆeevwnK al©Y Awf‡hvM MÖnY Kiv nq Ges Zv Aciva e‡j we‡eP¨ nq| wKQy iv‡óª ˆeevwnK al©Y Aciva wn‡m‡e wPwýZ bq, Z‡e M…n wbh©vZb wn‡m‡e MY¨ Kiv nq| Gi evB‡i wKQy iv‡óª, D‡jøL‡hvM¨ †`k wn‡m‡e evsjv‡`‡k, ˆeevwnK al©Y cwifvlvwUB AkÖ“Z, G‡K Aciva wn‡m‡e MY¨ Kiv †Zv KíbvZxZ|

ûgvqyb AvRv` weevwnZ bibvix‡`i ga¨Kvi GB †hŠb †hvMv‡hvM‡K KUv¶ K‡iwQ‡jb ‘Pyw³wfwËK †`n`vbÕ e‡j|

GKKv‡j cvðv‡Z¨i mgv‡RI G aviYv cÖwZwôZ wQj, weev‡ni A_© nj ¯¿x †`‡ni ¯^e©gq AwacwZ n‡eb ¯^vgx| myZivs, †h ¯¿x †`‡ni gvwjK n‡”Qb ¯^vgx, wZwb Kxfv‡e al©K nb? al©Y Aci †KvbI bvixi Rb¨ cÖ‡hvR¨ n‡Z cv‡i, ¯¿xi Rb¨ bq| wbðqB ¯¿xivI Giƒc fve‡Z ¯^v”Q›`‡eva K‡ib, KviY mgvR bvix‡`i Giƒ‡cB M‡o †bq| ûgvqyb AvRv` weevwnZ bibvix‡`i ga¨Kvi GB †hŠb †hvMv‡hvM‡K KUv¶ K‡iwQ‡jb ‘Pyw³wfwËK †`n`vbÕ e‡j|

‘dymwj‡q’ m¤§wZ Av`vq K‡i kvixwiK m¤úK© Movi g‡Zv cÖZviYvg~jK `…óvš— Avgv‡`i mgv‡Ri wewfbœ ¯—‡i weij bq| A‡bK‡¶‡Î GB cÖZviYv¸‡jv weev‡ni †gvo‡KI ˆea K‡i †bIqv nq cyi“‡li c¶ †_‡K|

g¨vwiUvj †ic gvgjv¸‡jv‡Z †hŠbZvq ¯¿x m¤§wZ‡K gh©v`v †`Iqv nq| A_©vr KvM‡R ¯^v¶i Kivi ag©xq-mvgvwRK-AvBbMZ AvPvi m¤úbœ Ki‡jB bvixi Ici cyi“‡li †hŠb KZ©…Z¡ cÖwZôv cvq bv| Z‡e P¨v‡j‡Äi RvqMvUyKy n‡”Q, G ai‡bi gvgjvi Awf‡hv‡M ¸i“Zi kvixwiK AZ¨vPvi wPwýZ Kiv †M‡j Z‡eB al©Y Awf‡hvM cÖgvwYZ nIqvi wbðqZv cvIqv hvq| AvB‡bi GB `ye©jZv‡KB wbivc` ÷ª¨v‡UwR wn‡m‡e e¨envi K‡i cÖZviYvi Q‡j bvixi m¤§wZ Av`vq cyi“‡li Rb¨ GKwU Kvh©Kix cš’v| ‘dymwj‡q’ m¤§wZ Av`vq K‡i kvixwiK m¤úK© Movi g‡Zv cÖZviYvg~jK `…óvš— Avgv‡`i mgv‡Ri wewfbœ ¯—‡i weij bq| A‡bK‡¶‡Î GB cÖZviYv¸‡jv weev‡ni †gvo‡KI ˆea K‡i †bIqv nq cyi“‡li c¶ †_‡K| wfKwUg bvixwU hZ¶Y bv kvixwiK wbh©vZ‡bi wkKvi nb, hZ¶Y bv ¯^vgx cyi“lwUi PwiÎ öj‡bi Acivci cÖgvY cÖvß nb, ZZ¶Y eyS‡Z AcviM _v‡Kb Zv‡K weev‡ni cÖK…Z ‍D‡Ïk¨|

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wµ‡KUvi i“‡e‡ji wei“‡× n¨vcxi al©Y gvgjvi NUbvwU eo AvKv‡ii wk‡ivbvg †c‡q‡Q wgwWqvq| GKwU wfRy¨qvj wgwWqv n¨vcx-i“‡ej †cÖgvjv‡ci AwWI wK¬c cÖPvi K‡i Zv‡`i m¤ú‡K©i welqwU †h wfwËnxb bq, Zvi mg_©‡b Ae¯’vbI wb‡qwQj| GQvovI gvgjvwU‡K wN‡i n¨vcxi wewfbœ cÖwZwµqv wb‡q wbqwgZ msev` Ki‡Q wKQy cwÎKv|

†gv‡Ui Ici mKj wgwWqv‡Z wKQy k‡ãi cÖ‡qvM j¶Yxq| †hgb, ‘cÖ‡jvfb, ‘mu‡c †`Iqv’, ‘DRvo K‡i †`IqvÕ| k㸇jv n¨vcxi Awf‡hv‡Mi †cÖ¶vcU‡K Zy‡j ai‡Q, wKš‘ KZUv gh©v`vKifv‡e?

†gv‡Ui Ici mKj wgwWqv‡Z wKQy k‡ãi cÖ‡qvM j¶Yxq| †hgb, ‘cÖ‡jvfb, Ômu‡c †`IqvÕ, ÔDRvo K‡i †`IqvÕ| k㸇jv n¨vcxi Awf‡hv‡Mi †cÖ¶vcU‡K Zy‡j ai‡Q, wKš‘ KZUv gh©v`vKifv‡e? †m‡K‡j wm‡bgvwUK kã Ômu‡c †`IqvÕ Ges ÔDRvo K‡i †`IqvÕ GKUv B‡ivwUK wfRy¨qvj wWm‡cø NUvq cvV‡Ki mvg‡b| wbwðZfv‡e GB wfRy¨qv‡j †Kej Ôbvix AeqeÕ-B ¯’vb cvq| GB me kã e¨wZ‡i‡K Ab¨ †KvbI wWMwbdvBW kã wK wcÖ›U I wfRy¨qvj wgwWqv e¨envi Ki‡Z cv‡i bv?

bvixi Rb¨ kãwU ‘cÖ‡jvfb’ bq, eis ‘cÖwZkÖ“wZ’, hv‡Z bvixwU Av¯’v †i‡L fyj Ki‡Qb| cyi“lwU cÖZviYvi gvbwmKZvq weev‡ni ‘cÖ‡jvfb’ †`wL‡q‡Qb Avi bvixwU †mUv‡K ‘cÖwZkÖ“wZÕ wn‡m‡e MÖnY K‡i‡Qb- cwiw¯’wZi e¨vL¨v g~jZ GUvB|

GKBfv‡e ‘cÖ‡jvfb’ kãwU åvš— B›UviwcÖ‡Ukb we¯—v‡i f~wgKv ivL‡Q| bvixi Rb¨ kãwU ‘cÖ‡jvfb’ bq, eis ‘cÖwZkÖ“wZ’, hv‡Z bvixwU Av¯’v †i‡L fyj Ki‡Qb| cyi“lwU cÖZviYvi gvbwmKZvq weev‡ni ‘cÖ‡jvfb’ †`wL‡q‡Qb Avi bvixwU †mUv‡K ÔcÖwZkÖ“wZÕ wn‡m‡e MÖnY K‡i‡Qb- cwiw¯’wZi e¨vL¨v g~jZ GUvB| wKQyw`b Av‡M evsjv wUÖweDb-Gi GKwU Kjv‡g K_vi gvic¨uv‡P ‘we‡qi cÖ‡jvfbÕ -G g‡R n¨vcxi wb‡R‡K Ômu‡c †`IqvÕ wb‡q nvm¨im Ki‡jb GKRb Kjvg †jLK| G‡ZB Aby‡gq †h, GB me k㸇jv‡K i“‡ej c‡¶i DwKj †KŠkjMZfv‡e Zvi †Rivq KZUv Akøxjfv‡e e¨envi Ki‡Z cv‡ib|

GQvovI wKQy bvgcwiPqnxb AbjvBb cwÎKv mgq mgq n¨vcx‡K wb‡q iMi‡M LeiI †Q‡o w`‡”Q| cwiwPZ GKRb Rvbv‡jb, n¨vcxi mv‡_ Av‡iv ev‡iv cyi“‡li m¤úK© wQj| GUv bvwK Zvi †gwW‡Kj †U÷ wi‡cv‡U© aiv c‡o‡Q| Zvi GB Le‡ii m~Î nj †dmey‡K †kqvi nIqv GKwU m¯—v AbjvBb cwÎKv|

n¨vcxi †gwW‡Kj †U÷ m¤úbœ n‡q‡Q GB Z_¨ mKj wgwWqv‡Z Qvcv n‡q‡Q| i“‡e‡ji †gwW‡Kj †U÷ welqK Avc‡WUI wgwWqv Qvc‡e Avkv ivwL|

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bvix al©Y AvBb, bvix wbh©vZb AvBb h‡_ó bvixevÜe bq| Z`ycwi, AvB‡b al©Y msÁvq †`n-gb-m¤ú‡K©i `k©b I gb¯—‡Ë¡i cÖwZdjb we¯—vwiZ bq, eis cyi‡bv I MZvbyMwZK| †hŠb cÖZviYv mivmwi Aš—f©y³ bv n‡jI hrmvgvb¨ wKQy aviv †hŠb cÖZviYvg~jK gvgjvq ¸i“Z¡c~Y© m~Î n‡Z cv‡i|

bvix I wkï wbh©vZb `gb AvBb-2000 (2003 Gi ms‡kvabxmn) Gi 9(1 ) avivi e¨vL¨vq ejv Av‡Q, Óhw` †KvbI cyi“l weevn Qvov †lvj eQ‡ii †ewk eq¯‹ †KvbI bvixi mv‡_ Zvi m¤§wZ Qvov ev fq †`wL‡q ev cÖZviYvg~jKfv‡e Zvi m¤§wZ Av`vq K‡i †hŠb m¤úK© ¯’vcb K‡i, Z‡e Zv al©Y e‡j MY¨ n‡e|Ó cÖZviYvg~jKfv‡e m¤§wZ Av`vq K‡i bvixi mv‡_ †hŠb m¤úK© ¯’vcb †h AvBbZ al©Y GB avivq Zvi Av‡jvKcvZ Av‡Q|

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D‡jøL¨ †h, Òal©‡Yi gvgjvi cÖavb mv¶x n‡”Q al©‡Yi wkKvi bvix wb‡RB| cvwicvwk¦©K mv‡¶¨i mg_©b _vK‡j ïay GB mv¶xi mv‡¶¨i Ici wfwË K‡iB Av`vjZ Awfhy³‡K Acivax wn‡m‡e kvw¯— w`‡Z cv‡ib|Ó

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†cÖg †nvK A_ev A‡cÖg, i“‡ej I n¨vcx m¤úwK©Z wQ‡jb G K_v mZ¨| d‡j †cÖ‡gi m¤úK© welqK n¨vcxi cÖv_wgK e³e¨I mZ¨ fvl¨ | Zv‡`i m¤úK© Aš—i½ ch©v‡q wQj, G K_v n¨vcx gvgjvi cÖ_g w`b †_‡KB Rvbv‡”Qb| i“‡ej GB NUbvq wb‡Ri B‡gBR wK¬b ivL‡Z n¨vcx‡K cÖZviK ejvi †Póv K‡ib Ges cy‡iv NUbvwU n¨vcxi †cQ‡b _vKv †KvbI P‡µi `vwe Kivi †Póv K‡ib| i“‡ej wVK K‡e KLb eyS‡Z cv‡ib †h n¨vcx cÖZviK P‡µi n‡q KvR Ki‡Qb? n¨vcx ÔmwZ †g‡qÕ bb, GgbUv eyS‡Z cvivi ciI i“‡ej †Kb n¨vcxi mv‡_ †hŠb m¤úK© Pvwj‡q hvw”Q‡jb?

cÖ_gevi RvwgbcÖvß nevi ci i“‡ej wkMwMiB GKwU †cÖm Kbdv‡iÝ Kivi Avfvm †`b †hLv‡b wZwb ÔmeÕ wKQy Rvbvevi AwfcÖvq e¨³ K‡ib| i“‡e‡ji cÖwZkÖ“Z †mB †cÖm Kbdv‡iÝ Avi nqwb| Gi KviY m¤¢eZ cÖKvwkZ AwWI wK¬c, hv Zv‡`i m¤ú‡K©i GKwU cÖgvY| aviYv Kiv †h‡Z cv‡i, †cÖm Kbdv‡iÝ Ki‡j i“‡ej n¨vcxi mv‡_ m¤ú‡K©i welqwU A¯^xKvi Ki‡Zb, n¨vcx‡K ÔbóvÕ wn‡m‡e `vwe Ki‡Zb, cy‡iv NUbvwU lohš¿ Ggb Awf‡hvM Ki‡Zb | †h‡nZy †cÖm Kbdv‡iÝ nqwb, ZvB i“‡ej fvl¨ mivmwi Rvbvi my‡hvM NU‡Q bv| Z‡e wb‡R‡K wb‡`©vl cÖgv‡Y †KŠkjx i“‡ej Gi evB‡i Avi Kx Kx Ki‡Z cv‡ib?

A_ev n¨vcx‡K Ô`yðwiÎvÕ cÖgv‡Yi cyi‡bv †KŠkj Aej¤^b bv K‡i i“‡ej eis mKj‡K Rvbv‡Z cv‡ib, wZwb mwZ¨Kvi A‡_©B Mfxifv‡eB m¤úwK©Z wQ‡jb, wKš‘ n¨vcx m¤ú‡K©i †¶‡Î i“‡e‡ji cÖZ¨vkvgvwdK cÖwZkÖ“wZe× wQ‡jb bv| †m‡¶‡Î, eyS‡Z n‡e GB NUbvq g~jZ i“‡ejB n‡”Qb awl©Z, n¨vcx GKRb al©K! †h‡nZy †dqvi Uª¨vqvj nIqv DwPr, ZvB i“‡ej GB AvwR©I †ck Ki‡Z cv‡ib Av`vjZ eivei|

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